A good story
The formula for a "good story": take what you know and
render it unrecognizable. That's the stuff of scintillating
news ("Man Bites Dog,"); high-rated TV talk shows ("Baby, I
slept with your brother's wife"), and countless movie plot
twists (What's our sweet protagonist's deep, dark secret?
How did her father's death really happen?). In the
U.S. entertainment industry, these are stories that sell.
Documentary filmmaking, however, uses this formula toward a
slightly different end. What makes good documentary is
tapping into the untold, to break a silence, to raise
awareness about realities unseen that abound around us.
Trembling Before G-d does all three, with a
poignancy that renders it an emotional kaleidoscope, and a
masterpiece. It is also touches a charged political nerve,
both for the ongoing clash between conservatism and
liberalism (as evidenced by the ongoing protest surrounding
this film), and the gay rights movement which, like many
other movements for social justice, continues to struggle
with questions of assimilation versus liberation, diversity
versus ideological and cultural sameness. Part of a still
small pool of media that's beginning to chip away at the
stereotype that all gays are white, middle class, and
Godless (and that all those who cherish religion are
heterosexual), Trembling tells a tale that to many
seems unthinkable: what it's like to live the life of an
Orthodox Jew who is also gay or lesbian.
Opening with silhouettes of people partaking in traditional
Jewish ritual, the movie then follows a number of people as
they tell of their own struggles with this apparent split
between sexuality and faith. David, from Los Angeles, plans
a visit to his childhood rabbi, who had recommended
"reparative" therapy for his sexual orientation when he
came out 20 years ago. "Devrah," an Israeli married
lesbian, discusses coping with the knowledge that she both
is not fully committed to her husband, as well as shunned
by the burgeoning Israeli gay liberation movement, which
shuns Orthodoxy. "Leah" and "Malka," a lesbian couple in
Miami, attempt to live an Orthodox life while struggling
with fallout from their families; Mark, a gay HIV-positive
Londoner, returns to yeshiva after being kicked out; and
Israel and Michelle, both from Brooklyn, tell stories of
leaving their communities altogether. Their personal, very
specific stories help the film to illustrate broader themes
-- compromise and regret, guilt and depression, fear and
inner conflict.
The movie might have easily descended into binarism,
pitting the monolith of religious demagoguery against the
hardship of struggling individuals who do not fit the mold.
But it takes the more difficult, and more honest, route of
blurring the lines between criticizer and criticized. In
fact, some of the most pointed reflections on the
possibilities (and limitations) of being truly Orthodox and
gay come from the gay people themselves. For instance,
Israel, one of the most vociferous in his condemnation of
the limitations of Orthodoxy, breaks down into fond
remembrances of his father when he returns to the Brooklyn
neighborhood where he grew up. At the same time, the
inability to acknowledge or forgive can be equally moving,
if very differently. One of the most heartrending scenes
shows David's reunion with his childhood rabbi, who,
despite expressing love for him, cannot accept him, or
rather, cannot accept his sin.
Trembling Before G-d handles uncomfortable material
with bravery and tender force; it is utterly human and
unrelenting in its challenges to assumptions. It also does
important work in juxtaposing the prolific cultural
relativism of the left with the issue of gay rights. How do
we fully understand the functionings of a culture that, to
some degree, is other than our own? How do we recognize or
critique those practices when they conflict with our senses
of social justice and righteousness? Who are the
participants in the gay rights movement? And what happens
when those participants cannot be seen? (This last dilemma
is depicted, when, at the end of the movie, the silhouettes
return, and are revealed to be those of lesbian and gay
Orthodox people living in New York City.) Though it doesn't
answer any of those questions, Trembling urges all
who view it to examine themselves, and realize that those
points of conflict, those unexpected turns in what we
assume is familiar, are more than a good story -- they're
the beginnings of change.